While there are many ways to describe a change in energy patterns experienced as either external or internal, we describe this kind of change as a frequency shift. When the world around you seems to alter, or when you find yourself feeling like you are waking up from a time of being less aware, you are experiencing a frequency shift-a time of transforming the nature of your reality.
 
This time must be seen as something that is going right and not something that is going wrong. You might be feeling slowed down energetically, or you might be feeling speeded up. You might feel even more precisely clear about the nature of your mind, body and heart; or you might feel completely confused or lost. Any way you experience this "shift", the opportunity is to actually unhook all of your attachments to the nature of your reality as you have defined and experienced it in the past.
 
We could go so far as saying you are detaching from a lot of the dualism that is, of course, a necessary aspect of living in the world, but becomes less necessary when you're ready to operate at a new frequency. In the time of transition from one frequency to another, the method of assembling your sense of reality finds a new foundation and sometimes new boundaries. This can cause confusion, but confusion can become the rich realization that everything is new, nothing is known, and there is only the present moment of experience that is in any way real.
 
Sometimes it takes a while for this new reality assemblage point to be comfortable. If it becomes too comfortable, however, it has probably become habitual. Another shift will emerge compelling you to let go of any comfort zone you may have constructed that is actually in the way of your awareness. It is natural to hold on to whatever you might believe is comforting, but aliveness demands impermanence and constant change. So you move from one frequency, become comfortable, then another frequency calls you to change, you let go, and on and on it goes. Awareness is the natural state, and its only requirement is to just let go. This means letting go of everything, not holding on to anything you believe is necessary, but rather believing in just this moment, the here and now.
 
All that is reliable is the deep respect for the mysterious presence that always supports you and that always takes you to wherever you're going next--whether you have any sense of where that is or not. You can't actually communicate where you're going, because the only way you could describe where you're going would necessarily use all of the old tools and terms of the old reality that you're leaving. And so it just can't work. You can't use the old terminology to describe something that you've never experienced before. What this does for you, is it forces you to let go of perceiving that there is some destination that you are heading to. The deeper understanding is that the destination and the beginning are always one and the same thing-the present moment.
 
Jumping out of linear time and linear thinking is part of the frequency shift. The transition from a linearly constructed notion of reality to something much more profound, much deeper, is indescribable. And that may be the hardest part, because the current cultural languaging tends to describe any deviation in the norm as pathology. So when you start operating and functioning in ways that are completely different from what you perceive others are doing all around you, the immediate "go to" reaction is to think that this is pathology, something is going wrong. You may believe you have either got to fix things, or turn back to a previous state of reality.
 
So it's almost as if the rug is been pulled out from under you. But what you're discovering is there wasn't even a floor under that rug. You are expected to fly and you are able to fly, but if you let fear get in the way, flying is going to be difficult. The most important thing is to stop comparing yourself to an idea you have about who you are, usually based in who you think you once were. You can't compare yourself now to who you were even 10 seconds ago. Whatever you believed to be an accurate description of who you were is complete fantasy. In the midst of a frequency shift, you get incredible training for absolute presence in the now. You discover how to experience your reality as constructed in every moment, completely new and alive. The new sense of self is indescribable, functioning at a completely different frequency. And as you relax into it all, it will just become clearer and clearer.
 
As we speak about you, and your ever changing reality and fluid self identity we wish to make it clear that all of One Life is in movement. Nothing is fixed or static. Even a moment, in which you see "a slice" of One Life, does not stand still for any duration of time, and does not represent a location in space. Three dimensional reality is not fixed or static, even if it appears to conform to physical laws and rules that are mostly reliable. These rules have been developed and agreed to by cultures and other groups of people in order to feel safe and secure in a world that can be shared by language. It is really the conforming languaging that is being shared, not the individual experience. In other words, we suggest that the ideas about physical reality and self identity that you share with others emerges out of a shared language and refers to your experience of life, but of course, can never really fully describe your life or your experience of life to another.
 
So let go of trying to describe what may be called a frequency shift, and just imagine that your comfortable way of being and knowing has always been a "house of cards".
As the house of cards tumbles, be patient and do not rush to reassemble it. It might seem like the most natural thing to do, but if you instead relax, the pile of cards in space will gently get up and dance. That is the moment that you fully appreciate that everything is going right, nothing is wrong, and it is One Life, in its constantly shifting, ever impermanent, completely liberated from all prescribed notions of reality. Let go, have confidence in the perfection of every moment, be comfortable with the mystery, and just allow the frequency shift to unfold.

When you're investigating any relationship, you are really investigating yourself. Everyone that you are in a relationship with is a projection of you, a reflection of you, and in some ways a creation by you. Now we don't say that to be flippant and avoid discussing any sense of another person’s contribution to the experience, we say that because as you continue to dive deeply into this notion of who you are, it becomes very clear that others are who you think they are, and you learn about you in relationship, not about anyone else.
 
All that you really have as information about another person is your own thoughts and feelings that are occurring in the moment attempting to describe the nature of that relationship. All that is available to investigate is who you perceive yourself to be in that moment, and everything about the other person is pure speculation. This speculation is often not very accurate or useful. It tends to be based on historical information rather than present experience. It is totally subjective, biased and full of expectations and assumptions.
 
Usually your initial sense of someone is related to the role they seem to play in your life, and your ideas about people who play that role. This is totally normal. You have an idea about what a landlord is like, so you see your landlord through the schema you have which describes “landlord.”  Your mother is supposed to be whatever you have developed as an idea of “mother” and so on. This is true for even the most intimate relationships. You evaluate how well they play the role you have ascribed to them and lose touch with a bigger view of them—hence you lose touch with the bigger sense of yourself. Everyone plays a million roles throughout their lifetime, but are seen by others with just a few of these roles defined. Assumptions and expectations are a product of the way you evaluate how someone else is playing a role in your life. “You are supposed to do this, be like this” are the most common assumptions we are speaking of. Assuming anything about another is unsatisfying for everyone. As both people engage in this, it is impossible to make anyone the cause of it. If you feel like someone is assuming things about you, you might just notice if you have evaluated them according to a role you believe they are supposed to be playing in your life.
 
Of course, no one is supposed to be anything. There are no absolutes about what a relationship should look like, how a person should function, communicate, operate, what actions they should take. These are things that are overlaid upon the present moment experience as idea structures because structure makes you comfortable. Many of you are uncomfortable in the wholeness of a moment and just experiencing the moment. There is an absolutely new display of phenomenon in every second, but it can seem much more comforting to expect something that your mind his conjured up and made into a story about what is real. This is this is the way that you get stuck in your life. You think it's so much more comfortable if everything just meets your expectations--your expectations are reliable and they don't change. Yet just the opposite is the result. You can experience great discomfort because those expectations can't be met, and the fixation on your expectations ultimately limits the opportunity for spaciousness and true liberated experience of reality. This can be very subtle. Subtle or not so subtle, expectations can get you felling stuck in some way.
 
There is a way out of this stuck place. It is actually quite easy. In the process of relating to someone who in that moment you are perceiving as a separate individual outside of yourself, you are projecting an image of a person and interacting with your projection. What you perceive as the space between you and the other person, the space you believe separates you, is actually the space that connects you and the other person. This is of course just a shift in your perspective. The shift in your perspective is what compels you to feel separate, but it can also allow you to feel connected. Separation and connection are just two sides of the coin—the coin being the idea of relationship. Because relationship is the primary aspect of duality, there always seems to be two things relating, however, it is all conjured up by you in the moment. This is not a bad thing—this is the delight of the play of all life. In fact, we would suggest that the reason you live in duality is to enjoy the experience of relating. 
 
Just get the sense that whatever space you think is separating you from anyone else is actually a space that is joining you. Imagine looking through a microscope and suddenly you see that there are all sorts of things in motion and all sorts of space and unless you have some kind of scientifically trained eye you can't really tell what is space and what is some thing. It's just a whole lot of different happenings in some seeming order and some seeming chaos and the divisions between things are constantly in flux. From the deepest level of investigation, you and everyone else are just organisms in a much bigger, more profound, both completely organized and totally chaotic expression. It's important to be able to tune into that notion from time to time because it helps you then to understand anything that happens in the course of a relationship is just part of the One Life expressing.
 
The difficulty in relationships, generally speaking, is that different kinds of emotions and thoughts get triggered in the midst of communicating. You can get invested in the absolute reality of the experience of your thoughts and feelings and believe those thoughts and feelings are caused by the other person. Of course, another person cannot cause anything in you. You react to your own ideas generated about someone—their actions are evaluated by you to have some greater meaning or importance—and you react to your ideas. It becomes easy to ascribe the responsibility of your reactions to someone else, giving the other person the power to “make you” happy or “make you” sad. The moment you believe that in any way, you have lost your perspective and are no longer in the delight of the duality. The delight of the duality needs both sides to have power, to be absolutely equal in any arbitrary sense of cause and effect. One side cannot have the power to cause another side to be a certain way. So there you are stuck in the separation—the space between you and the other—without the capacity to see the connection.
 
Trust that all relationships are really more about self-discovery than anything else. You are not really discovering something about another person, you are discovering something about One Life, about the totality and your own self, completely in the moment you investigate, because you can't really discover anything other than that. It is always the big picture, the pure view, and your awareness of that knowing that is revealed over and over again in relationship. One Life awareness is present even if it seems to be in the background momentarily. In every interaction in every relationship that you have, allow that knowing to become more visible as you become more transparent or spacious, as you let go of holding onto your view in favor of having what we can call the primordially pure view—One Life, no separation, all light.
 
Choosing to live your everyday life mindfully, and that means putting attention on the everyday circumstances, the everyday communications, and the everyday exchanges, having some kind of mental, emotional, or spiritual flexibility, there's an ongoing awareness of the big picture the pure view and that allows for real freedom.
 
Your experience of discomfort in relationship comes from the small story, the small picture, the narrow view.  Have a flexible assemblage point where you can sense the way that you are assembling your reality as being one way in this moment, and another way in another moment, not fixed, not stuck.  You can never be absolutely certain that things are this way and only this way. You must be willing to recognize that things can seem important and significant in this moment exactly as is and the next moment really could be completely different. That is respect for the impermanence of the moment, but it's also a flexibility in understanding that you're putting your reality together on the fly in every moment and it's not something that is absolute, fixed, or static.
 
Upon investigating a relationship, remember you are investigating yourself. Always remember what you learn about you, and keep the biggest view possible. There you will find that love underwrites everything. Love is a noun and a verb, a thing and all the space between things that connects them. Be as loved as you are, and, of course, just be.

YOU ARE A SACRED COLLABORATOR with your world, with spirit, with other, with whatever momentarily seems to be separate from you. The relative nature of the world is an expression of the unlimited and infinite arisings of this sacred collaboration. You are not all alone creating everything you experience. You are instead a magnificent collaborator who moves from the position of being the creator to the position of being the created in less than a blink of an eye and without effort. Just as your breath is effortless and reliable, so is this oscillation between creating and being created. In truth, everything experienced is what it is and what it is not, blinking on and off in a sacred collaboration.

The nature of this sacred collaboration is cooperative, effortless, and respectful. You can collaborate with anyone and anything, yet you cannot name in any concrete manner what that “anyone” or “anything” actually is. Your sacred collaborator might be called by you Spirit, or God, or the divine, but the reality of whether that is accurate or not can never be known. It is part of the great mystery of life that you will only have an inkling of this sacred collaboration in moments when you are the least interested in defining or identifying it.

In the relative experience, you perceive things to be distinct from you, and co-create and conversely co-un-create all things, all the while, being co-created and co-un-created yourself. This is not to say that you are not whole as you are, nor to say that the world around you is incomplete. But, to remind you that as a human being functioning in the world, you are never completely independent. There is interdependency inherent in the sacred collaboration that is the relative world of duality.
How best to navigate in the world in this sacred collaboration? Acknowledge the mystery, the unknown in your sacred collaboration on your journey, and begin to experience an expanded relationship with who you are. You can allow much more understanding and acceptance into your experience if you can acknowledge that whatever might seem momentarily separate from you is actually collaborating with you in the creation of that experience. Life in duality becomes much more magnificent, and your practice can become one of acknowledgement, gratitude, and loving kindness. If unknown, mysterious, “Spirit” is a sacred collaborator, experience becomes an expression of that relationship. Your experience of life constantly reveals to you the nature of your participation in that experience, while also revealing precisely and exactly the counterpoint to that.

Take a look at your thoughts. It is easy to see in every thought, every judgment, every label ascribed to every action and idea, that inside of that thought lies its opposite, ready to challenge your initial opinion. This is how duality entices you to believe in it. It presents everything it is and everything it is not almost simultaneously. The collaboration becomes more obscure the more you hold on to your ideas. If you latch on to one side or the other you are stuck, but if you notice one side, then see the other instantaneously, the “belief” that you have it all figured out will give way to an uncertainty that is more appropriately “real”. Relaxing in this uncertainty refines your state of One Life awareness.

Letting go of what you think comprises reality, in favor of allowing this notion of it as always a collaboration with unknown and unknowable forces will liberate you from asking the question “why” which has no answers. It is quite easy to get all hung up wondering why something has happened, rather than accepting that whatever has happened is the result of an unknowable sacred collaboration. Your collaborator in the creation and un-creation is guidance—always giving you information about what is next, but never answering the question, “why?”.

We bring this idea of the sacred collaborator to enhance your capacity to live life vibrantly. Just be willing to experiment with your view of your life. The more flexible you are, the more energy flows and the less likely you are to get fixated on some pattern of thinking reflected outwardly as chaos in your life. Try on new ideas and concepts as a means of staying unfixed, open and free. Life is a moment-to-moment unfolding of all that is. Be willing to change and you become flowing with all that changes. Stay stuck in your concepts and you will find no answers, no peace, and likely feel more restrictions and limitations in your inner and outer experiences.

It is true that it takes a little courage to change, to trust and to give up control. But the courage needed is nothing compared to the resulting sense of freedom obtained from just changing your mind even in the smallest of ways. A shift of 1/8 of an inch in your thinking can change your whole world dramatically. Knowing you are in the flow and in a sacred collaboration in this life is a choice you can make right here and right now. It may mean letting go of what is familiar, what is routine; the thoughts you are so used to thinking may disappear if you make this choice to change. You might feel as if you have lost yourself, but it is an outdated self that is lost. You might feel as if you are out of control, and that is a good thing, even if it is a bit disconcerting. For when you are out of control, your sacred collaborator can guide you. Just allow yourself to acknowledge that there is only a transparent you in each moment that exists, and in every other moment there is another transparent you that arises. Your opportunity is to be all that you are, One Life, full, whole, complete, compassionate and loving in every moment. As a sacred collaborator in the experience of the relative world, remember it is a loving collaboration--so just be who you are and be loved as you are.